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Are You On The Same Page?

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Some of my favorite times are when my wife and I are siting on our bed talking through our dreams and desires.

Getting to hear my beautiful bride talk about the conversations she’s had with friends, the newest woven wrap that has caught her eye or the adorable/terrifying things our children have done throughout the day brings joy to my heart. I love hearing about the things that make her tick. That time where the kids are in bed and the cell phones are put aside are critical to a healthy marriage. It’s in this intimate time that we are able to truly connect so why doesn’t it happen near enough? What keeps us from doing this every night? Life.

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It is far to easy to get distracted with social media, chores, work or our Netflix queue and completely miss out on the truly intimate times of conversation with our spouse. We get caught up with the many things that vie for (both of) our attention and before we know it sleep overtakes us; our marriage is worth more than that. We have to set out the time to connect, to get on the same page. We are two parts to the same coin but it is so easy to stray away from that concept and fall back to our own individual lives. I’m not saying we need a 24/7 understanding of what each other are doing in an unhealthy, controlling way but unity in our marriage is critical.

Make the time tonight to set the phones aside after the kids go to bed and talk with no strings attached, no agenda in mind. You may be surprised with how much you actually have to talk about!

How do you best connect with your spouse?

Sean Leacy

Christ follower, husband & father. Geek extraordinaire, SysAdmin & avid outdoorsman. I love to lead worship & write. #DadLife #RedeemingFatherhood

  • I can absolutely relate. I haven’t been married that long but my wife and I always say after “those” conversations that it’s a shame we don’t have more. I think it really helped when we go to bed at out “bed time” (which we rarely keep) because then we’re usually not tired out and so can easily chat. I also find that going for walks together really help us connect, especially when I don’t take my camera!

    • Going to be while you are not tired is great way to accomplish two things, 1) Build intimacy through deep and lasting conversations, and 2) build a family 🙂