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Let Her Sleep!

softly lit bedroom

I have a battle going on inside and struggle to fight against it at times. I'm tired. All the time. Like many families I work during the day while my wife stays home with the kids. It's easy for me to entertain the thought that it's more important for me to get a solid 8 at night and let her get up with the kids, after all I could be fired for falling asleep at my desk! I've made a million excuses as to why I should be allowed to sleep but not a single one...

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Serving Your Wife Through Pregnancy

pregnant woman

After helping my wife through 4 very difficult pregnancies I've learned a few things that have help give her rest and provided me with a better outlook on what she has to go through (Hyperemesis Gravidarum is the real deal people). Though these are focused on the time surrounding pregnancy I'm sure there would be no complaints if they continued throughout your marriage! 1) Ask her what needs to be done around the house: I wouldn't classify myself as being overly observant when it comes to household needs. Dirty clothes on the floor, dishes in the sink, trash...

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Are You On The Same Page?


Some of my favorite times are when my wife and I are siting on our bed talking through our dreams and desires. Getting to hear my beautiful bride talk about the conversations she's had with friends, the newest woven wrap that has caught her eye or the adorable/terrifying things our children have done throughout the day brings joy to my heart. I love hearing about the things that make her tick. That time where the kids are in bed and the cell phones are put aside are critical to a healthy marriage. It's in this intimate time...

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Pursuing Your Wife: Valentines Day

###It's a big consumerist marketing mess. Really, it's just another day on the calendar but that doesn't mean my wife and I don't celebrate on February 14th. We treat the day as an opportunity to be intentional about "getting away" from our routine. I like to think of it as a special [date night]( **Traditionally we don't go out to dinner**; the mess of reservations and a crowded restaurant don't make for a peaceful evening when you are both introverts. We like to find a quiet place (typically our living room) where we can relax and...

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Pursuing Your Wife: Woo Her

###Become a student of your wife. Study her this week. How does she like her coffee/tea? What is her favorite type of chocolate bar? Does she like flowers? If so, what kind does she enjoy the most? Is there a chore she hates to do? What is a perfect relaxing evening for her? Where does she dream of traveling to? Is there a restaurant she has been dying to try but hasn't had the nerve to do it because of cost? We should be *constantly* listening to her with a mental "notepad" out waiting to jot...

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