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I Won’t Be Silent: A Fathers Response to Rape and Injustice


I can’t always be there to protect her.

I’ve spent this week trying to find the words to express my anger towards the ruling of the courts on the rape conviction of 20 year old Brock Turner and the events that have surrounded the case. What he has done will follow him for the rest of his life but it pales in comparison to the torment she will have to live with. Knowing a significant number of women who are rape/sexual assault survivors I have seen the weight of these actions decades later and the impact they make on marriages, families and the victims own self worth. It disgusts me that the rape took place in the first place but his excuses and shifting the blame were enough silence my typical quick rebuttal to the buzz around it all. This means more to me than something I can quickly tweet and wash my hands of. I needed to process this. 

Dad’s Are Not Babysitters

dad and child

I'll pick up the megaphone once again: We don't "babysit" our kids, we raise them. It's far to typical a response from men who haven't fully taken a hold of what being a father means. They are still trying to live a single life (or at least childless) life and passing off the day-to-day raising of the kids to their wife. Not only is this not fair to their wife, it's not fair to their kids! I hear it all time, "Sorry, I can't hang out tonight, I have to babysit the kids". How do we think it...

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Ladies Week

I ended yesterdays post mentioning an up-coming adventure. Here it is! Day two of my wife's birthday started off by letting my wife sleep in a little before rushing out to the car and hitting the road for the hour drive out to Northwest Trek Wildlife Park near Eatonville, WA. The drive from Gig Harbor was absolutely gorgeous once we got past Spanaway with plenty of rolling country roads and the constant feeling that any minute Mt. Rainier would pop up from behind a cloud. We enjoyed the chance to get out in the fresh air...

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The Nine To Five

We have 2-3 hours a day with our family. For many men it's inevitable. The world runs on a 9-5 schedule. For single guys and men without kids it works out pretty great. You get to sleep in a little, you get home early enough and you have the weekends off but as a dad I can't help but feel we are missing out on watching our children grow. There is always a nagging feeling that I'll turn in to that workaholic dad, that my kids will grow up despising me because I only see them 3...

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Fatherhood: Snuggles, Stories and Quality Time

###Story time is one of my favorite times of the day. At some point in time I obtained the unspoken task of putting my son to bed each night. **This is not a complaint**. I get an average of 3 hours a day to spend with my kids and try to make the most of that time. Our typical routine is to start getting him ready around 7:30 so we can be in his room by 8. Most nights we spend the first 15-20 minutes cleaning up toys, rough housing, making more noise than we are...

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