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Pillars of a Healthy Marriage


How do you fight off the "7 year itch"? My wife and I are coming up on 8 years of marriage this May. In that time we've seen friends married, divorced, married again, widowed and a few who who have vowed it off all together. Though 8 years may not be long for some it is just past the national average for marriages that end in divorce. That's a staggering thought: If a marriage is going to end in divorce, on average it is falling apart right now. Thinking about that drives me to pursue my...

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Marriage: Take Your Time

To the single/newly married: I can't stress the importance of that first year enough. It's a time to get to know each other all over again, to develop healthy marital boundaries and to figure out what it means for two individual personalities to become one. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is fill your first year of marriage with constant social activity. Take it slow. Spend every moment you can with your spouse while you have the chance. Life gets busy and before you know it there's more than just the two of you...

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Pursuing Your Wife: Woo Her

###Become a student of your wife. Study her this week. How does she like her coffee/tea? What is her favorite type of chocolate bar? Does she like flowers? If so, what kind does she enjoy the most? Is there a chore she hates to do? What is a perfect relaxing evening for her? Where does she dream of traveling to? Is there a restaurant she has been dying to try but hasn't had the nerve to do it because of cost? We should be *constantly* listening to her with a mental "notepad" out waiting to jot...

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Pursuing Your Wife: Date Nights

###Pursue your wife. Though it may sound cliché we've all heard it before, "you never stop dating your wife". It's a phrase we typically hear on our wedding day or by old men in their 70's who are looking for a chance to share some of their sage wisdom with you. It’s one thing to hear it but it's another thing to live that out. We don’t stop pursuing our wives after the honeymoon, it's a life-long journey. I love [Webster's]( definition: > pur•sue - verb - *to follow and try to catch or capture (someone or...

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