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We Can’t Do It Alone

It's easy to be the lone stag. There's no one to tell us what to do, no one to be accountable to and no one to call you on your ish. It's easy to get away with those little lies and half-truths. The best part about being a "lone stag" is that you don't have to let anyone in so no one gets to see how hard it really is to keep up the act. You don't need help. The truth is far from it. There is a great importance in having other men in your life....

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Fatherhood: Snuggles, Stories and Quality Time

###Story time is one of my favorite times of the day. At some point in time I obtained the unspoken task of putting my son to bed each night. **This is not a complaint**. I get an average of 3 hours a day to spend with my kids and try to make the most of that time. Our typical routine is to start getting him ready around 7:30 so we can be in his room by 8. Most nights we spend the first 15-20 minutes cleaning up toys, rough housing, making more noise than we are...

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Fatherhood: Baby Wearing

###It's as ancient as childbearing itself. There is something **magical** about the feeling of your child cuddled up against your chest. On a scientific level your body is producing oxytocin, on an emotional level you are getting some much needed bonding time with your children. There are so many studies out there showing the benefits of "wearing" your children; it helps momma heal postpartum, balances hormones, regulates metabolism and promotes a feeling of calm and trust. Mamma's *need* to have that "skin to skin" but daddie's do as well. ![](/content/images/2015/02/ellie-and-i.jpg) I didn't buy in to the "babywearing daddies"...

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Fatherhood: Fishing

###I grew up on the water. Some of my favorite memories as a kid (heck, as an adult as well!) involve fishing. I remember going out the lake with my dad and grandpa, piling in to his little Livingston and fishing all morning. I annoyed the snot out of them with my constant chatter but over time they taught me how to be still and enjoy the chance to be quiet with my thoughts. I learned that the lives of animals were to be respected; we didn't catch for sport, we caught for food. The philosophy...

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Real Masculinity: Being A Man

I get really fired up about being a man. There seems to be a lot of question out there as to what it actually *means* to be a man. Modern culture would tell you that you become a man when you get married, when you get your first career job, when you finally move out of your parents’ house, when you lose your virginity or some mixture of those and other life events. I believe that being a man has little to nothing to do with jobs, sex or housing. It has everything to do with...

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