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Kids Have Bad Days Too

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I recently read a quote out of "The Newbies Guide to Positive Parenting" by Rebeca Eanes that got me thinking about how I respond to my kids when they have bad attitudes. “So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes, yet we adults have them all the time! We think if we don't nip it in the bud, it will escalate and we will lose control. Let go of that unfounded fear and give your child permission to be human. We...

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Dad’s Are Not Babysitters

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I'll pick up the megaphone once again: We don't "babysit" our kids, we raise them. It's far to typical a response from men who haven't fully taken a hold of what being a father means. They are still trying to live a single life (or at least childless) life and passing off the day-to-day raising of the kids to their wife. Not only is this not fair to their wife, it's not fair to their kids! I hear it all time, "Sorry, I can't hang out tonight, I have to babysit the kids". How do we think it...

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Fatherhood Is A Joy, Not A Buzzkill

As I was going through my feeds this morning I ran across a video called "Daddy's Beer - Unexpected, but very exciting news!". The video is of a man finding out that he is going to become a father and is gaining views because of how he deals with the news: He's reaction is something we've all seen before and by itself isn't something I'd typically write about. What brought me to post this was how the same video was interpreted on the Cheezburger Network's Parenting feed: "This Guy is How Every Man ACTUALLY Feels When He's...

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Learning to Grieve Through A Miscarriage

We buried our son this weekend. His name was Shiloh and he never took his first breath, never saw our faces and never experienced the touch of our hands. We held his small frame in our hands in disbelief. We are both in good shape, we have two healthy children and live a clean lifestyle so how could this happen? Did something preventable cause this? Will it happen again? We aren't the first to ask these questions and we will not be the last. Whether it be 8 weeks in the womb or 40 years walking...

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A Cereal Changed My Life

We should all strive to respond as well as this dad. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YmSEZ2TlzE You can see the thought process in his head, "I'm getting ready for a shift I don't want to work but have to and my son is out of bed when he should be sleeping". There is a moment of frustration, his kid jumps at the tone and replies with hesitancy explaining that he just wants to eat breakfast with him. Freeze frame. How many times do we lash out with frustration in this situation and send our kid back to bed? How many times do we...

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